AKA Confident People Don't Dither
If you happen to either be very indecisive, or a total, out and out people-pleaser, chances are you don't make quick decisions. There can be too many options and you want to think them all through, you want everyone to be happy, you want the right decision.
All Decisions Are Not Created Equal
Of course there are some things in life that take deep consideration. I'm not advocating choosing which house to buy on a whim! But every day, there are lots of decisions that really, will have very little overall impact.
- What to have for dinner
- What to watch on tv
- What to order from a menu
- What to wear
There may be other people's preferences, but there's no right or wrong answer. So start making these decisions quickly. Assume all of the options have equal merit and just choose.
Can't quite bring yourself to do that? Go with the second option, every time. Make it a rule. When you're presented with a choice select the 2nd option. Giving yourself a guide to follow, to make choosing quick and easy.
We Keep Our Minds Busy Sweating the Small Stuff
We know we do.
If we attach great weight to small decisions, then the weight we attach to big ones is overwhelming. We don't have the headspace left to consider them, when there are just so many things to think about.
If you don't get caught up in pleasing everyone, what's the worst that can happen? You see a terrible film? Someone doesn't have their favourite meal that day? These things don't matter. In the grand scheme of things, everything will even out, over time. Remember, for most of our daily decisions, there is no wrong or right, the options are equal.
Quick Decisions Give the Appearance of Confidence
Confident people always seem to know their own minds and make decisions easily.
You can absolutely seem more confident, by doing the same. Even better, not only are you projecting confidence to everyone else by doing this, you're training your own brain into quick decision making being your norm.
This is a very easy way to help you feel more confident. No overthinking, you just cracked on, made a decision, moved on. Do this and, over time, you will become more confident, because you're repeatedly trusting in yourself.