Dreaming of ‘me-time’?
It's such a lovely concept, isn't it 'me-time'?
I say concept, because the reality for many women is that me-time firmly remains an idea, a notion and an unachievable dream.
Ask 'what have you done today'? and there'll be an endless list of how busy weekends are. Ask 'what have you done for you today?' and the list will be somewhat shorter, whatever the day of the week.
We have a lot of roles to play and a lot of jobs to do - the 'juggle struggle' is real. What were you today? A mother? A partner? A daughter? A good friend? We're maintaining relationships and, often, getting consumed by the roles we play - the hats we wear each day, swapping them round seamlessly as we go from work to school playground to home.
Sometimes who we are can get a bit lost in all of this. Well - we're busy. There isn't room for me-time in our day. But, we need it. We need to recharge and we really need to remind ourselves who we are, what our own wants and needs are (and sometimes that we do actually have these, in relation to ourselves, not just our children and families). Life can easily consume us, and we lose track of the woman we used to be.
This weekend, try to do one of these things
1 - Do something just for you, that you really want to do.
A long soak in the bath? A book you've been dying to read? A film you really, really want to watch and never get to?
Whatever it is that you would love to just take the time to enjoy doing, do it.
(And it really could be anything - I managed to get some satisfaction from cleaning my car a couple of weeks ago. You would have to see a before picture to realise why this may be the case 😉 )
2 - OK, too short notice, you can't do your thing this weekend - so take 5 minutes to think of the thing you'd like to do - big or small - from planning a holiday to going for a long walk. Then rule out some time in your diary to DO it. Put it on the family calendar, put it in your phone, but make sure you schedule it for yourself.
Does it feel a bit...self indulgent to try and do something just for you? Look at it this way - if a friend said they were doing this, you wouldn't think "wow, how selfish to take some time for yourself". So be your own friend.
This is the time you need to take to be able to carry out all the other roles you play. It's a little bit of time just being you.
Let me know what you decided to do. (Assuming it is suitable for sharing).