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Who’s a boudoir portrait session for?

How do you know if a boudoir portrait session is right for you?
I've created a simple test!

Just answer these questions:
Would you love more confidence?
Do you look at all those Before and Afters on our Facebook page and think "...but mine won't look like that"?
Do you think you're too old?
Do you think that you're the wrong body shape?
Have you lost your body confidence after having kids?
Do you wish you'd had some body confidence in the first place?

If you've answered yes to any of these, then yes, it's for you!
I'd love to help you regain, or even gain for the first time, more body confidence. Because the truth is, boudoir is for any woman who wants help to step outside of her comfort zone, and feel good about herself.

There's no upper age limit, and no 'right' body shape. See your body? That's the right shape to be able to do this, exactly as it is.

You don't have to change to be able to do this - you don't even need to change your own perception of yourself, because we're going to help with that.
You just need to take that one small step and get in touch.

Everything starts with a chat - that's all. No pressure to book, just an initial conversation, from which you can decide whether now is the right time for you. But if not now, when?

Much love

Embrace Your Body

We started our Embrace Your Body project at the end of 2019 to  empower women to love themselves and their bodies, as they are, right now.

It's about embracing our bodies, whatever flaws we may think we have, and accepting ourselves.

It's about showing that nobody is perfect, but that we are all beautiful in our imperfections.

And it's about sharing that experience with other women, to help them on their journey to body confidence.

We never got to finish the project in 2020 (you can hazard a guess why!), so it continued in 2021.

Entries are now closed, for taking part, but you can read and listen to the inspiring stories from the women who did, below.
Much love,

Summer of Self Love 2020

Our Summer of Self Love for 2020 is now complete.
You can dip in and out, do one, do all of them - it's up to you.
If you want to feel good about yourself, pick a video, do the thing. repeat!

Week one eases us gently in the summer of 2020, with a pat on the back for ourselves for getting this far, in what has been a really difficult year.
So, take it easy this week, just tell yourself 'Well done'(and mean it!)

I've talked before about ditching toxic social media -this is an opportunity to replace it with positive influences. And it is all about sharing those, with others, making you THEIR beacon of positivity.

Week three  is again all about spreading a bit of positivity - we ALL need it right now. When you spread positivity, you will receive it back -
give abundantly, and receive abundantly!

Week four is all about changing how you talk TO and ABOUT yourself. If you tell yourself (and others) that you HATE your body - how about you change that message to something more open ended?

 A couple of weeks ago we were giving compliments - week five is all about accepting them...graciously!
If you're one for rejecting compliments - this week is most definitely for YOU!

Week six is all about standing tall, both physically and in how we THINK about ourselves. Two things to do this week -  tiny tweaks that can have a REALLY big impact on how you perceive yourself. 

For week seven, I'm not asking you to do anything that takes up a lot of your time - it's all about thinking about what is REALLY important to you in life, and, honestly, whether how you look makes ANY difference to that stuff?

Week eight is all about the power we give to photos, over and above what we see in the mirror.
Just because a photo is more permanent, doesn't make them truthful.

The camera lies!

Week nine is a confidence 'hack' that will not only make you seem more confident, but will, over time make you become more confident.

If you want a shortcut to starting to appear more confident, this is the week for you.

You know you can't please everyone, right?
So why not go right ahead and just please the one person you know you can - yourself?
Welcome to week 10!

Week 11 is all about the positive power that photos can have on us.
So, this week, spend a little time drenching yourself in happy memories that you get from browing photos.

I definitely saved the best until last!
Do you go into battle, against yourself? Week 12 is about changing how you support yourself in your goals.

Of course, watching a video is one thing - taking action is up to you!
Let me know how you get on!

Much love,

2 Toxic Memes

I need to start this off by stating that I LOVE memes. We create loads of them for Instagram and Facebook.  I share them, like them, tweet them.

However, I am also acutely aware that a widely shared meme demonstrates 'this view is popular'. If that view makes someone feel negative emotions such as guilt or shame, the meme may be toxic to their mental health.

People are extra-sensitive right now, as we're all coping with our own, unique situations. Consequently, the opportunities to make people feel 'less than' are abundant.

<Waits patiently whilst someone bleats on about snowflakes>.

When brands create memes, they've usually got a very defined audience in mind (and I am including us as a brand here - 15 years in business, we've got a logo and everything, if I want to say we're a brand, let me have it).
You think pretty carefully about who you want to 'speak' to, as a brand. You're not intending to actively alienate every one else (most of the time), but you're not really trying to speak to the majority, as much as you're attempting to really reach the people who share your core brand values.
I tend to try to play it safe - to me this means 'don't make anyone else feel bad, in trying to make someone feel good'.

When individuals create memes, they've just thought 'sounds good to me' and go for it.

Toxic memes are falling into a variety of categories.

Toxic Motivation

toxic motivation meme

I first came across this in various business groups on Facebook.
Now, businesses are getting hammered by the lockdown. Many business owners aren't working, aren't earning and don't know whether they'll ever re-open, such is the current economic reality.
Needless to say, therefore, seeing these posted, does not necessarily buoy your spirits, when you're wondering 'am I going to lose my house in all this?'.

Worse, the sentiment got shared much more widely. As if everyone was now on some kind of extended holiday, and should be 'making the most' of their sudden, clearly abundant, free time.

Sure, you may be trying to home school your children, make £2.50 last for 4 weeks and stop your dog going crazy, but if you really wanted to learn to play the cello, you would be making it happen.

Meanwhile, you could be doing none of these things, and spending all day in your pyjamas, watching Netflix, and finding even that a struggle. You got through another day. You are doing enough, right there. Don't be guilted into thinking you aren't.

Finally, you might be like me - essentially, kind of fine with lockdown and a bit lazy. Still. Leave me be. I usually work flat out, so excuse me if I don't want to make now the moment I write a book.

Fat Shaming Memes

These have built in popularity, the longer the lockdown goes on. I'm not sharing one. You've seen them, probably given them a like, possibly shared them.
They're essentially variations on the theme of how fat you're going to be, by the time lockdown ends.

I do not think you're fatphobic for sharing these. There's some kind of weird validity that comes from something being a widely shared meme - just a general 'it must be ok'. And, it made you laugh, at first glance. Quite possibly, your intentions lean towards being self-deprecating. I understand all of this, and I just ask you to think about who these ultimately refer to. This article explains it brilliantly.

(Incidentally, the very first one of these I saw had a picture of a toddler, on a beach, in a bikini. So, yay, we're somehow - what? - fat-shaming children now? I don't get it).

Anti-Ageing Memes

See above - I'm not sharing any.  These are similar to fat-shaming memes, just replace being overweight with 
1. having grey hair
2. having wrinkles

Because, of course these are the worst things that can happen to us.

Anti-Feminist Feminist Memes

Not lockdown specific, these. They'll say things like:
"You can always tell who the strong women are. They are the ones you see building each other up, instead of tearing each other down."

Implicit it in these is that there's lots of women behaving terribly towards each other, and a few, strong ones not. 

Essentially, this is something all of the toxic memes have in common - putting a group of people down - either obviously, or subtly. And it is often subtle, which is what sucks us all in to sharing them.


You may, from reading this, consider me a completely joyless shrew. Just to let you know, I am fine with that.

Much love,

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