Here's something I come across time and again - women being convinced they're unphotogenic.
It's a topic I've visited before, more than once. But it's also a pretty big topic, so I'm coming back to it again.
I just need to to make a point to you. If you know people who always, always look fabulous in photos, then, I'll grant you, it's fair to say they may well be photogenic. This doesn't mean that everyone else, who doesn't automatically look great in every picture, is unphotogenic.
Other people looking fabulous in photos all the time does not mean you never can
Why would it?
If someone else is a concert pianist, it doesn't mean you're tone deaf.
If someone else is an awesome chef, it doesn't mean you're incapable of boiling an egg.
If someone else can do something seemingly effortlessly, it doesn't mean you can't do it at all.
Looking good in photos is a skill
And skills can be learned.
But, I hear you say, I have no photos of me that I like. None at all. I hate them all. I delete them. I never have my photo taken. I avoid the camera. I take the photos so that I can't be in them.
I'll break the camera.
I'm too fat.
I always pull a weird face.
I always have too many chins.
All things that have been said to me, over and over.
Guess what? I don't have Vogue on hold whilst I'm typing this, begging me to appear on their front cover.
L' Oreal aren't after me to star in their latest advert.
I get it!
Not looking good in photos is not the same as being unphotogenic
If you want to get comfortable in front of a camera, then you need to get in front of a camera.
Often, we don't like photos of ourselves because we're shocked by how we look. Now, either we're all completely deluded about how we look, or the camera isn't giving us a true reflection of ourselves.
It's most likely to be the latter - being uncomfortable in front of a camera is going to show. Your discomfort will be magnified, as will small gestures we make (like going tense, and raising our shoulders, or recoiling from the camera, giving ourselves extra chins).
There are lots of things you may be doing that result in a 'bad' photo - but if you get yourself aware of them, you can control them - the very first step towards getting better photos.