Category Archives for "Confidence"

Reasons a boudoir session can’t work for you

If you would love to have beautiful boudoir portraits taken, and think you can't, what is it that you feel makes you different?
You possibly feel like there are many reasons a boudoir session can't work for you.
I can pretty much guarantee that the biggest difference between our clients and you is that they managed to be brave enough to take that first step and get in touch with us.

The other reasons you think you have? They're unlikely to be real.

Here's what they've said about themselves:


I've never had the greatest confidence over how I looked ..mirrors are not my best friend


...a few months ago I would say no way to doing this as I'm not confident with my body and plus I'm getting older!


It was something I had always wanted to do, but never felt I had the confidence.


After a marriage break up I wanted to boost my flagging confidence...I never thought for one minute I could look as good as the pictures showed.

I love sharing with you images of our fabulously confident clients, but it's really important too that you know they weren't feeling fabulously confident when they first got in touch - they were feeling scared, daunted and very disbelieving that they were going to have images like the ones they'd seen on our Facebook page or website.

Even though the portrait session itself isn't as scary as everyone is expecting, the doubt always creeps back to people, before they come and view their images.

Look at it this way - we're not going to invite you back to see images we don't think you'll love? Why would we?

Still, I can say all this as much as I like - you don't have to believe me.  So, let's get personal. If you are stuck feeling like you would love beautiful images, but you don't think you can have them, let me know why. I'll get back to you with a reply that let's you know 
- whether I think we can help
- if so, how I think we can help

And then it's up to you to decide whether you would like to come and see us for a chat to find out more.

Fill out the form below and take your first step towards going from "I can't" to "I can".

Much love,


Thank you so much to the whole team at smart photography you have helped my views of myself & I actually rather love the way I look now ..thanks to you!


I had a truly wonderful time at Smart Photography...My hair and make up was fabulous like a film star! And my friends loved my photos!! Thank you Anna & Robin.


I was so nervous, but the whole team were amazing, especially Robin. He is very good at making you feel at ease and is really professional and an amazing photographer. I would highly recommend them.


I would definitely say go for it to anyone who feels a bit down or just wants to feel gorgeous for the day whatever shape or size you are and keep the image for the rest of their lives 🙂 Thanks Guys xx

7 stages of boudoir

The 7 stages of boudoir

There's a certain 'arc' to how our clients feel - before, during and after their portrait sessions - the 7 stages of boudoir.

Everyone tends to feel it's just them - I'm here to reassure you that it's not!


This is the "I can't possibly look like that/be brave enough to do any of that" stage, where you just don't have faith in yourself.

This stage is overcome with our pre-session chat. This is my opportunity to let you know that you can do it, and you will look amazing (no exceptions).

You might not believe it quite yet, but it's always good to have reassurance.


You're not 100% convinced that your images are going to be beautiful, but you know you need to buy a few new pieces of lingerie, and give it all a go.

You trust us enough to arrive for your session (and the glass of champagne is very welcome).


You're looking gorgeous with your hair and make up professionally done and it turns out it's  all actually not that scary after all.
Told you you could do it!


Here's the thing about doing something outside of your comfort zone - it gives you a buzz. 
You leave your session feeling 10 feet tall and a million dollars. You've seen some images on the back of the camera, and wow! You're looking amazing!


Every high has a come down - you're feeling great after your session, but somehow, just before you come along to view your portraits, all that confidence starts to seep away and that doubt comes back - those "I can't have beautiful images because..." thoughts come flooding back.


You're watching your slideshow thinking "she looks amazing, I hope my images look like this" and then it dawns on you - these are your images and you look amazing!


Your images are now a constant, daily reminder to you how fabulous you are.  This feeling is the one you get to keep.

7 stages of boudoir

And there we have them - the 7 stages of boudoir.
At stage one? Let's talk!

Much love,

Where does body confidence come from?

Some people have it, some don’t – so where does body confidence come from?

I’m much more in tune with where it goes. Mine went south, along with what seemed to be the rest of me, around about my 40th birthday. I’d naively thought that not having kids would somehow save my chest – I’m not saying it was that perky to start with, but I wasn’t expecting quite as much…drooping.
It wasn’t just my chest either – I’m no gym bunny (is a cake and wine bunny a thing? If it is, that’s more me). No one had warned me that carrying extra pounds on my waist would lead to a stomach that can casually hang over skimpy knickers. OK, so now I knew why Bridget Jones chose her big knickers, but that wasn’t much of a consolation.

There’s a lot of talk about diets and fitness out there – there isn’t a lot of talk about natural changes to women’s bodies. About what to expect. There’s plenty of advice on how to get a lost figure back – after having children, or weight gain. But there isn’t so much dialogue about how some things are permanent (there’s no exercise in the land that is going to mean I can get away without wearing a bra). This can create a feeling that if you haven’t toned everything up, then you’re failing.

This was brought home to me by a client who’d had a baby around 18 months previously. She asked her mum when her body would get back to normal. “It won’t” she was told. “You have a new normal now”.

I’m not saying “stop exercising, we’re all doomed anyway”. But I am saying that sometimes we need to re-align our expectations. We perhaps need to be easier on ourselves and also, understand that the changes our bodies go through – be it from childbirth, the menopause, weight gain, weight loss or illness – these are all normal, natural changes. We haven’t suddenly got a body that looks outside of ‘the norm’ – there is no norm. And whatever we’re going through, we’re not alone. There are hundreds, thousands, millions of other women having very similar experiences.

We’re just not really that good at talking about them – people share when they’re feeling good. Not so much when they’re feeling bad. So we’re left thinking “this thing I don’t like about myself…it’s just me”.
It’s not – everyone has their own ‘thing’. And we all need to stop worrying about them!

Find out all about our new ‘Body Confidence Boost’ sessions by clicking here, and find out where to get your body confidence from.

Much love,
(PS. Mention this blog post when you book for £50 off your Body Confidence Boost portrait session).
where does body confidence come from

Fall in Love With You

Need to boost your confidence?

Let’s do this! Welcome to The Fall in Love With You Challenge.

What’s the Fall in Love With You Challenge all about?

Building confidence, in 7 areas of your life.
Are you ready for more confidence in :

Romantic relationships
Work (even if you work at or in the home)
Your achievements
New situations
Your body

Then sign up now and get an email a day, for 28 days , containing your 7 challenges and all the encouragement you might need along the way.

Your challenges are easily actionable, and they won’t take a lot of your time (I know you’re busy). There’s no new age stuff in there – all of your challenges are straightforward and you can just get on with them – although you’re welcome to ask for help along the way.

Complete them all, or pick and choose the ones you want to take part in.

Once you’ve signed up, you’re also welcome to join the Fall in Love With You Facebook group, for support for you and to help encourage everyone else.

Pop your details into the form below, and get ready to receive your challenges. I look forward to hearing how you’re getting on along the way.

Much love,
fall in love with you


Natasha’s personal boudoir portrait experience

I particularly want to share this personal boudoir portrait experience with you, because there is a recurring theme running through how women feel about their bodies.

Ladies – our bodies change. They change and we’re not prepared for it.
They change in ways we didn’t really expect or understand. We saw celebrities in magazines, looking perfect in bikinis just weeks after giving birth, and thought that’s what’s achievable.

And when we don’t achieve it, we think there must be something wrong with us.

Everyone else manages, don’t they? No one else ends up with a stomach overhanging their knickers that stays for evermore, no matter how many stomach crunches you do.
They’re all wearing skimpy thongs, whilst we’re shopping for knickers that could only be described as apple catchers.

We’re just not talking about it. Or, we are talking about it – about ourselves – in a negative way. We’re falling out of love with our bodies, and sometimes even apologising for them.

We’re hiding from our partners – we make an assumption that if we don’t like what we see, they probably don’t either. (Have you asked your other half if they want to see you naked? I’ll bet they say yes!).

We lose our confidence – and resent our bodies. We resent our bodies and stop treating them well. We stop treating them well and deny ourselves the pampering and the beautiful lingerie. We deny ourselves the beautiful lingerie, and we continue to lose our confidence, and a little bit of ourselves, because we used to be women who, some days, didn’t choose comfort over sexy. We think we can’t be sexy now.

We can.
I can.
You can.

Here’s what Natasha said about her personal boudoir portrait experience with us.

“I’m sure I was the same as every other woman, suffering with low self esteem. After having children our bodies change so much, I am one of the unfortunates that has a flabby stomach and terrible stretch marks. I wanted to see myself the way my hubby sees me. After 26 years together I needed to remind us both how sexy I can be.

Anna and Robin made me feel so comfortable and at ease. I had lots of fun shopping for new outfits after meeting with Anna and discussing what works best.

Poor Robin had to put up with me not being a good model, I kept wobbling in the massive heels I wore 🙂 but he was very patient and all I can say is the results were amazing.

It was so lovely being pampered, we never spend enough time doing that do we ladies? I loved my hair and make up.

I have 11 of the pictures on my wall in my bedroom, look at them every day and still can’t believe that it’s me. I’m so glad that I did it and would definitely recommend the experience to everyone.”

Are you ready to fall in love with you? Then click here.

Much love,
Natasha's personal boudoir experience