Are you the right size for boudoir?
Is there a right size for boudoir? And are you that size? No, of course you're not.
You need to be thinner, no wait, you need to be curvier. Come to think of it, perhaps you should be taller? Or maybe if your hair was longer?
You're probably too young. Or too old. Or just too something.
The truth of it is, everyone seems to think there's some reason why any.other.living.person could have a portrait session, except for them. Because they're too something. Or not enough something else.
This was brought home to me (not for the first time, and it won't be the last) yesterday, when a client mentioned that she doesn't fit the right 'type' for boudoir, because she's not curvy - and curvy women are more confident about doing it, aren't they?
Erm, no. Stripping down to your underwear to have your photo taken - there's no body type that's more confident. You know whose more confident? Confident people. And they come in all shapes and sizes!
Considering yourself the wrong 'something' for boudoir is also a way of mentally protecting yourself. When you secretly believe that 'x' is wrong with you, it won't be a horrible shock when it all goes wrong and you don't have pictures that you love. You're just getting proved right.
However - it's not going to happen. There is nothing wrong with you that means you can't have gorgeous pictures. You thinking there is and it actually being the case - these are two very different things.
It's ok to allow yourself to even get a little bit excited about your images. If you can get on board with the notion you may just look awesome, you're much more likely to be better prepared for your session with lingerie, accessories and really thinking about the style of images you'd like.
There is no right size for boudoir - and equally there's no wrong size either. You don't have to wait for something to change before you allow yourself to find this out, except in your mind.