Faking it until you make it
AKA - so you think you're not confident?
Are you the kind of woman other people think are confident, when deep down you feel like a complete fraud? Because you know that you're faking it? And actually, you're not confident at all.
What if that's all confidence is?
We tend to think that confident people are breezing along, not giving a thought to what people think of them, but are they?
Or are they like the rest of us? Filled with the same insecurities, fears and worries. They've just managed to get themselves to the point of doing things anyway.
What if other people thinking you're confident means you probably are?
Maybe confidence isn't something that's there for you all the time. Perhaps it's not some kind of serene feeling, whatever you face, that means you know the answers, can take the plunge, can be brave.
Maybe all it really is, is about overcoming fear just enough. Overcoming fear doesn't mean not feeling it. It simple means being able to move past it, and take action.
If you're 'faking it 'til you make it' when it comes to being confident - you're probably already there.
I've been doing it for years. I know other people will often see me as chatty, confident, more than a bit bossy and 'take charge-ish'.
Do I sit at home thinking "I really don't know what I'm doing, what if everyone finds out? And do they even like me anyway?"
I needn't worry - because the truth is they're all waiting to be found out too.
And that's the big 'secret' to confidence - it's not some magic feeling of knowing what you're doing all the time. It's just taking action, despite sometimes not knowing what you're doing, not feeling like you should be doing it and not being sure the outcome is going to be as you want.
All the time women look at our images in the studio and say "but all of these women are so confident - I'm not like that!".
In reality, everyone has felt exactly the same way. If you've made it into our building, you are exactly as confident as the last person. And the next!
You made me look and feel amazing - thank you.
The whole experience was brilliant, the team put me at ease throughout both in our pre chat over the phone before our session and during the day.
The personal touch to find out what I liked and didn't was reassuring and gave me confidence - although a little nervous during the build up.
The hair and make up by Katrina was excellent and she gave me some tips along the way which is always a bonus.
The photoshoot itself, although shy at first, was the most amazing experience. It was something I have always wanted to do but completely lacked the confidence to follow it through. The team made me feel at ease and helped my confidence grow during the session and getting into poses, which made me feel relaxed and by the end I was enjoying the shoot so much I didn't want it to end. I felt and looked a million dollars.
The viewing session was a bit emotional for me as wasn't sure what to expect but the images have come out so well. I am so pleased and it's given me such a personal boosy. I recommend every woman does this once in their lifetime.
I'd do it again in a heartbeat!!
Thank you so much to Anna, Robin and the team.